Momcozy Village - Together We Grow ·Oct 5, 2026 ·20 min

Mommy's Not an Octopus: Mental Load 101 for Kids

Evaluation and Summary

7.4/10

Momcozy Village hosts Emily Busby, author of the children's book "Mommy's Not an Octopus," to discuss the mental load mothers carry and how to involve kids in understanding and managing it. The episode opens with the origin story: during a chaotic dinner party, Emily's husband told their children, "Give your mom a second. She's not an octopus"—a comment that sparked both laughter and the book idea. Emily shares how her background as a college athlete, accustomed to juggling studying, practicing, and competing, initially led her to apply the same "do it all" mindset to motherhood, resulting in burnout and anxiety. The core message of the book and episode is twofold: moms have unlimited love but limited energy, and kids can learn valuable lessons by helping with household tasks. Emily discusses how the book frames helping as a positive activity—a game or shared experience rather than a chore—which teaches children foundational life skills while easing the daily burden on mothers. The episode explores boundaries, people-pleasing tendencies, and the importance of giving moms space to pause and recharge. Emily describes how the book has influenced her own children's behavior and mindset. Throughout the 20-minute conversation, Natalie Gouché guides listeners through practical takeaways: involving kids in day-to-day activities, setting realistic expectations, and recognizing that "doing your best is more than enough, even without eight arms." The episode is framed within Momcozy Village's broader mission to empower and support mothers through early motherhood phases, with the podcast backed by Momcozy, a maker of nursing and breast-pumping products.

Verdict: A solid, warmly-presented interview that delivers practical parenting wisdom and emotional validation with trustworthy guidance, though the brevity limits depth and the audience is primarily parents rather than children.

Kids & Family rubric

Age-appropriate and engaging 3/5 20%

The episode targets parents and older children who can understand the mental-load concept; the book itself is for kids, but this podcast episode is primarily a parent-focused interview with limited direct child engagement material.
Educational or emotional value 4/5 20%

Offers practical strategies for involving children in household tasks, validates parental burnout, and provides emotional reassurance that imperfection is acceptable; the book's message about boundaries and realistic expectations has clear
Trustworthy guidance 5/5 15%

Emily's advice is grounded in personal experience, emphasizes healthy boundaries, reframes helping as positive, and avoids guilt-tripping; the guidance is psychologically sound and kind.
Substance 3/5 15%

The episode covers the book's origin, core themes, and practical applications with time stamps for navigation, but at 20 minutes it remains relatively surface-level; some topics like people-pleasing and boundaries are touched but not deeply
Delivers on its title 5/5 15%

The title "Mommy's Not an Octopus: Mental Load 101 for Kids" is fully delivered—the episode explains the mental load concept, the book's approach to teaching it to children, and actionable ways to involve kids in solutions.
Value for time 4/5 15%

Well-paced 20-minute interview with clear segment markers and focused discussion; efficient use of time, though some deeper exploration of topics would strengthen value.

How we score Kids & Family

Worth it if you're a parent struggling with burnout, seeking ways to teach kids responsibility, or looking for reassurance that imperfection is enough.

Content flags

Sponsored The podcast is backed by Momcozy (a nursing/breast-pump company) and features the author's book; while not deceptive, the episode serves promotional purposes for both.

#parenting #mental health #family dynamics #children's books #boundaries

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Show notes

Every mom knows what it feels like to juggle so many things at once that two arms hardly seem enough. But trying to do it all can take a toll. So, what can help moms feel seen and supported? In this episode of Momcozy Village: Together We Grow , Natalie Gouché chats with Emily Busby, author of Mommy’s Not an Octopus , a children’s book that teaches kids that moms can’t do it all. The book grew out of an ordinary family moment: a hectic dinner party where Emily was juggling several things at once. When her kids started calling out requests, her husband told them, “Give your mom a second. She’s not an octopus.” Just like that, an idea and a new Busby family saying were born. As a college athlete, Emily became used to doing it all: studying, practicing, and competing. However, she realized that bringing the same mindset to motherhood led to burnout and anxiety. One of the book’s most powerful lessons is that kids can help their moms, and that helping can become something positive, like a game or an activity to do together. Young children may take a while to learn tasks such as unloading the dishwasher or folding clothes, but teaching them to pitch in gives them valuable, foundational skills while helping moms manage the day-to-day load. Like all moms, Emily sometimes needs a moment to herself to catch her breath during a busy day. Mommy’s Not an Octopus encourages kids to give Mom the space to pause and recharge. After all, moms may have unlimited love, but they don’t have unlimited energy. Episode Highlights 01:00 – Why Emily wrote Mommy’s Not an Octopus . 02:28 – What the book is about. 04:16 – How Emily’s athletic training played a role in her approach to motherhood. 08:08 – How boundaries are discussed in the book. 11:02 – How the book has changed Emily’s kids. 13:05 – People-pleasing and boundaries. 15:58 – Ways to involve kids in day-to-day activities. 18:01 – Emily’s final thoughts. About the Guest: Emily Busby Emily Busby is a mom of two adventurous girls, a wife, a corporate professional, and the owner of EJL Designs, her creative small business. One evening, amid the usual dinnertime bustle of clanging dishes, questions from every direction, and a little chaos, her husband exclaimed, “Mommy is not an octopus!” Her oldest burst into laughter, and just like that, the idea for the book was born. Emily hopes Mommy’s Not an Octopus brings smiles to busy families everywhere and reminds parents that doing their best is more than enough, even without eight arms. Connect With Us Momcozy Website | Facebook | YouTube | Instagram Emily Busby Website About the Podcast: Momcozy Village – Together We Grow Momcozy Village: Together We Grow is a podcast where moms gather to learn, share, and support each other. Hosted by Natalie Gouché, each episode features inspiring conversations on motherhood: from career transitions to mental health and beyond. Backed by Momcozy, makers of innovative wearable breast pumps and cozy nursing bras, the podcast is part of a movement to empower moms through every phase of early motherhood. Enjoying the Show? Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If you’re enjoying the conversations, consider leaving us a 5-star review—it helps us grow the village and support more moms. Follow Koala Tots for more calming bedtime stories, or listen ad-free with bonus sleepy compilations on Koala Tots Plus https://koalatots.supercast.com Narrated by Abbe Opher Music by Sokratis Seirlis Instagram: @ koalakids.fm

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